NARM® Podcast with Kirsten Timmer & Dr. Jens Heidegger
How can we build strong, meaningful, and healing relationships with our children – even when the storms of everyday life, stress, and our own histories are present?
In this English-language episode of the Transforming Trauma podcast, I had the great pleasure of speaking with Dr. Jens Heidegger, NARM® therapist and colleague, about our shared work with TransParents.
Together, we explore how a trauma-informed, relational approach can strengthen the parent-child connection and shift parenting from pressure and perfection toward presence and authenticity.
Parenting as a Relationship – Not a Role
One of the core messages of this episode:
Parenting is not a performance. It’s a relationship.
When we allow space for emotions, when we meet our children with curiosity instead of control,
and when we begin to heal our own developmental wounds,
we create the foundation for a different kind of family culture.
Honoring Life Processes in Parenting
Our vision is rooted in a deep trust in life’s innate intelligence.
Children are not blank slates or problems to be managed.
They are full beings with a unique developmental rhythm –
and when we slow down and listen, we begin to see the wisdom in their behavior.
Respecting life processes means letting go of control –
and learning to lead with clarity, care, and connection.
A Trauma-Informed Path to Connection
The NARM® approach helps parents:
- Understand their child’s emotional and behavioral signals
- Identify and release patterns rooted in their own childhood
- Stay connected to themselves during challenging parenting moments
- Lead without overpowering – and love without losing themselves
It’s not about becoming a “perfect parent.”
It’s about becoming a present, responsive, and real one.
Why this conversation matters
Whether you’re a parent, a professional, or simply someone longing for more depth and healing in relationships,
this episode invites you to rethink what it means to raise children with respect, presence, and trust.
Listen now:
Strengthening Parent-Child Connections
with Kirsten Timmer & Dr. Jens Heidegger
